I'm being continually undermined by my line manager. What can I do?

I work on projects with a high profile and lots of responsibility in the public sector, and my directors say I’m doing a good job. Yet I am consistently micro-managed and undermined by my line manager, who to everyone else seems friendly, affable, super-enthusiastic and cheerful – yet when she speaks to me there is unease, second-guessing and challenge. In my appraisal we celebrated very few successes (and I know I’ve had a few) and went over a series of things I needed to work on, none of which had ever come up in a supervision. I came out deflated and uninspired, despite a good year’s work. Short of leaving a job and a project that could send my career rocketing, how do I address her micro-managing and second-guessing every step I take – which as a consequence has me questioning my ability?

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